Why, when we know that there's no such thing as
perfect, do most of us spend an incredible amount of time and energy
trying to be everything to everyone? Is it that we really admire
perfection? No -- the truth is that we are actually drawn to people who
are real and down-to-earth. We love authenticity and we know that life
is messy and imperfect.
Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be our best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth; it's a shield. Perfectionism is a 20-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it's the thing that's really preventing us from being seen and taking flight.
Finding the courage, compassion and connection to move from "What will people think?" to "I am enough," is not easy. But however afraid we are of change, the question that we must ultimately answer is this:
What's the greater risk? Letting go of what people think -- or letting go of how I feel, what I believe, and who I am?
The greatest challenge for most of us is believing that we are worthy now, right this minute. Worthiness doesn't have prerequisites.